How To Spot If You're Dating A Narcissist

The perfect first date. Charm, charisma, instant chemistry. It feels like you've met your person. Though, the red flags are often there in the beginning.

By Phoebe Rogers, Clinical Psychologist, Couples Therapist, Author, specialising in dating and relationships.

An intimate, ideal first date

How to spot if you're dating a narcissist

I was asked to write a piece for Mamamia; my first solo piece, and on dating and narcissism. My work is founded in the simple principle of helping women trust their gut. When a woman first starts dating a charming man, she is swept up. Excited. Hopeful. The little girl within is longing to be chosen. And a narcissist evokes strong feelings. We feel seen, special, adored....

The narcissist shows interest; passion; conviction. And it's hard to see beneath that. Yet, often, the cracks are there. Just look at the series, The Tinder Swindler, and Love, Con, Revenge. The patterns are there. The doubt creeps in. Yet, the longing for love keeps us stuck.

Please remember, not every one is a narcissist; you must feel a very specific criterion of symptoms across contexts to meet diagnostic criteria. This piece will support you with how to spot if you're dating a narcissist.

And it will help you feel safer in dating: to read the signs early, and move on quickly, so you can meet a healthy, kind, reciprocal, loving partner- who is truly interested in you.

You can read the complete article here.

Written by Phoebe Rogers

Author of When Will It Happen For Me? A Shame-Free Guide to Finding Love On Your Own Timeline; Clinical psychologist, Couples therapist, course creator, who helps women overcome unhealthy relationship patterns to have a secure, loving relationship.

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